LETTIN GO

To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it's the realization I can't control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective,
it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

There come times, in the context of love and romance, when we must learn to let go. Maybe the relationship was not meant to be? By letting go, I am not implying "to forget" or "to ignore." However, I need to let go in the sense of releasing emotional baggage I may be carrying around with me, so that I may be open to, and present for, a new relationship. Too many of us are trying to keep a tight grip on things that are out of our control. This is like trying to grip the water flowing in a river. Put your hands into the river. If you try to get the water by grabbing it and clenching your fists, it goes right out of your hands. If you relax and open, gently cupping your hands, the water flows into your palms. By relaxing, opening, and trusting, we can hold onto more of what is precious to us. By letting go, we actually allow more of the mystery of life to come in for us.

I am letting go. Letting go isn’t gonna end my world. Letting go isn’t gonna make my heart stops. There is always rainbow after the rain. If you are strong enough to make it through the storm, then now it is time for me to sit back and enjoy the rainbow. I ain’t going to look back AGAIN! There is a reason why there is something that is called PRESENT and FUTURE.

Isn't that what we wanted all along
Freedom like a stone
Maybe we were wrong
But I can say goodbye
Now that the passion's died
Still it comes so slow
The letting go

The Letting Go - Melissa Etheridge

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~Let Bygones Be Bygones~